What’s holding you back?
The more people I’ve helped to find new jobs, the more I think about this topic. What is it that’s standing in your way?
When I meet job seekers, they always outline their concerns about looking for a job. For some, it’s age. For others, it’s weight. And, some are worried that they never finished college.
But, in reality everyone has these fears. What sets the successful apart from the dreamers seems to be one thing.
It’s not a MBA, a genius IQ, money, or a stellar existing job — although these things don’t hurt either.
The real “it” factor seems to be a person’s ability to pursue their goals, despite their fears. It’s being afraid, but trying anyway.
As I was thinking about this topic, I looked up a few quotes. There are so many good ones on the topic of fear. Here are just a few.
“If you live in fear of the future because of what happened in your past, you’ll end up losing what you have in the present.”
“Never let your fear decide your fate.”
“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”
“Fear is only temporary. Regret last forever.”
“Your largest fear carries your greatest growth.”
“Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.”
“Don’t let your fear of what could happen make nothing happen.”
“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” –Jack Canfield
“Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain.” –Mark Twain
But, being fearless, it doesn’t mean always getting it right the first time. The fearless often fail, a few times, but keep trying. They try until they find success.
Thomas Edison once said, “I haven’t failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” You’ve got to believe he had to try a few times before he ever found success.
The ability to fail and keep trying boils down to resilience. It’s that grit factor that allows some people to keep trying until they finally succeed.
The key characteristic that seems to play hand in hand with fearlessness is openness. A theme I’ve observed in both my most successful clients — and my podcast guests is a sense of being open. When you ask about their careers, the story often includes parts about how they tried something they had never done before. Or, how someone gave them an opportunity they hadn’t planned on, but they took it anyway. It doesn’t mean however that they took every opportunity, but they were open to the ones that had possibility.
If you’ve been struggling to meet your goals, I’d encourage you to spend some time thinking about what’s holding you back. Why are you stuck? Some of the things you may come up with will be external. They’ll be out of your control. Once you have a list, focus in on which things you do have control over. Those are the ones that can make the biggest difference.
If I were to guess, I’d bet at least one of the things holding you back is being influenced by fear some (if not a lot). Focusing on conquering that fear (or learning to work through it) can make a huge difference in both your personal and professional success.
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Angela Copeland is Founder and Coach for Copeland Coaching, a great way to jump start your job search. Follow her on Twitter @CopelandCoach for tips on finding the perfect job for you.